It’s not our job.
Jesus said,
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
"For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Matthew 7:1,2.
We as mere mortals do not have all the facts. We do not know why a person is like they are. Only God knows that. That's why we must show love and not judge in anyway those around us.
The late American evangelist Billy Graham said,
“It is the Holy Spirits Job to Convict,
God's job to judge
and my job to love,”
Billy Graham.
If you claim to be a Christian a true follower of Christ Jesus you cannot afford to judge those outside the church. Because in doing so you will push people away from God.
Please think about it.
